I was beginning to wonder why she has a lot of friends (well according to her) we don't hang out outside the office and I only knew her because we were officemates so I have no way to confirm if she really has a lot of friends. She was a bore to talk to always talking about how she is too tired to get up in the morning or get out or talk to her daughter. And when she talks about her daughter its always a complaint how her daughter is asking her to buy this and that. When you try to talk to her about your life she is always too eager to interrupt to say how her story is same or worse or better than hers. Its as if you are always in a competition with her. You can't also talk to her about your husband because her face would turn so bad that you would think she ate something sour or bitter. Its because she has separated with her husband for many years now and though she always keep denying it you could tell that she is still bitter about and has not totally moved on.
Then after sometime I began to realize why she has so many friends. Or she chats with a lot of then thru social media. I think they like talking to her because she makes them feel how lucky they are. That they are lucky because their lives is not as miserable as hers. She would talk about how her friends buy her things, foods, pay for her movies, dinner etc. Then I realize somehow I did that too with her, I gave her a planner for Christmas and when I had extra cash I treated her for snacks.
So I am beginning to think that what she has are pity friendships. People feel so bad for her because she is a single parent who rents a small apartment with her parents and 1 sibling. Her husband left her for another woman which according to her own words "after I did everything. She shifted to an IT career late so she is earning less with people of her same age. She is rated poorly in her performance reviews at the office. Her male friends ( if I remember it right she had 2) proposed a booty call with her which she declined but she still remains chummy with them.
She vehemently denies it, but she likes the attention. Because when people who rarely talks to her suddenly talks to her you can her face light up. That is also why I think why men in the office like teasing her. Because she always has a twinkle in her eye when a man talks to her. I even told her that I have a hunch that the guy he has a crush probably also has a hint about her feelings. Because one tome she was telling him how her daughter's gums are infected and yet she is smiling ear to ear.
I pity her because I feel that she wants to feel special. But unfortunately I have no time for such drama.
Then after sometime I began to realize why she has so many friends. Or she chats with a lot of then thru social media. I think they like talking to her because she makes them feel how lucky they are. That they are lucky because their lives is not as miserable as hers. She would talk about how her friends buy her things, foods, pay for her movies, dinner etc. Then I realize somehow I did that too with her, I gave her a planner for Christmas and when I had extra cash I treated her for snacks.
So I am beginning to think that what she has are pity friendships. People feel so bad for her because she is a single parent who rents a small apartment with her parents and 1 sibling. Her husband left her for another woman which according to her own words "after I did everything. She shifted to an IT career late so she is earning less with people of her same age. She is rated poorly in her performance reviews at the office. Her male friends ( if I remember it right she had 2) proposed a booty call with her which she declined but she still remains chummy with them.
She vehemently denies it, but she likes the attention. Because when people who rarely talks to her suddenly talks to her you can her face light up. That is also why I think why men in the office like teasing her. Because she always has a twinkle in her eye when a man talks to her. I even told her that I have a hunch that the guy he has a crush probably also has a hint about her feelings. Because one tome she was telling him how her daughter's gums are infected and yet she is smiling ear to ear.
I pity her because I feel that she wants to feel special. But unfortunately I have no time for such drama.
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