Friday, June 3, 2016

Listen with your eyes

Has it ever happened to you that an acquaintance suddenly has a different attitude towards you? I did not use the word "friend", "relatives" or "loved ones" because usually you can ask them right away what's wrong or what happened. But for me if its just an acquaintance, it is more difficult since I am still unsure how he/she would react. He/She might think that I am a clingy or needy person that I easily get attached to a person. Or that I am a prima donna who always wants attention. But it bugs me almost to eternity especially when I know that I have not done anything bad or offensive. Unless if it was done unconsciously or unintentionally. I would like to believe that I am a keen observer or reader of people's behavior so I easily notice if something has changed. I look at people's body language when they speak or how they look at people when they are not talking. My team had a dinner with a client once and I can tell that he is also observing team dynamics especially when we are speaking in Filipino. He is non-Filipino so you could tell that he is curious what we were talking about. Since I saw that he is looking at us, I translated to him what I and my teammate were talking about. And he bluntly said " Yeah, I think I got it, I don't understand Filipino but I can tell with how you interact and your body language how the conversation was going". I am like that. Sometimes, I tend not to listen to the words of the person I am talking to but rather on his body language or gesture. I have watched somewhere ( I forgot if its a movie, tv series or documentary) that you could always tell if a person is interested in you (not necessarily romantically)if when he talks to you his feet are pointing towards you, if its pointing a different direction then it means that he probably wants to finish the conversation quickly and move away. If you are in a group or there are other persons while you are talking, and a person's feet is pointing to a person other than the one speaking then he maybe more interested to listen to that person than to the current speaker. Needless to say, I believe in the cliché "actions speaks louder than words"

Day 17

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