Day 17

Feom 40 days to a Joy filled life by Tommy Newberry

- We do all sorts of silly things that fuel our negative emotions. As a result, we end up getting more of what we don't want

- We distort things, we exaggerate things, we amplify our experiences in life and we pick the wrong things to dwell on.

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Day 16

From 40 days to a joy-filled life by Tommy Newberry

- We cannot trust our feelings to be synonymous with facts.
- According to humorist Josh Billings, its what we know that ain't true that causes us so much trouble
- the single biggest mistake people make when dealing with feelings is accepting them as true
- Feelings are data that you must filter through reason
- The longer you have been led by your feelings, the harder it will be to establish reason as the basis for future decision making. Our culture celebrates empathy, emotion driven morality.
- it is often through our feelings that we are typically led astray

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Day 15

From 40 days to a Joy-Filled life by Tommy Newberry

- Ingrates feel entitled. Nothing is quite so powerful or so quickly destructive to your potential for joy as the attitude of entitlement. This is relatively modern notion that someone or some group owes us, that we deserve something from others. With this mindset, even if we receive something, we don't see it as a gift but as a right.

- Moaners and whiners surround us, and they often seem to be competing to see who has the worst grievance against society or who can be the most offended

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Day 12

From 40 days to a Joy-filled life by Tommy Newberry

According to clinical psychologist Dr. Mark Crawford, " the idea of finding your soulmate is a myth. A soulmate is created by sharing the best and worst experiences of life together over a period of many, many years.

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Day 11

From 40 days to a Joy filled life by Tommy Newberry

When you feel a sense of deficiency, it does not necessarily mean that you are lacking something important. What it does mean is that you have recently been thinking about what is absent, very likely to the exclusion of what is present.

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Day 10

From 40 days to a Joy filled life by Tommy Newberry

- You are writing your own life story with each subtle thought you think

- almost everything that happens to you good or bad originates with a single thought.

- Neuroscientists can now demonstrate that every thought sends electrical and chemical signals throughout your brain , ultimately affecting each cell in your body.
- Remind yourself that " your thoughts are showing"
- your thoughts are incrementally shaping your destiny here on earth
- you have authority over your thoughts

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Day 9

From 40 days to a Joy filles life by Tommy Newberry

- Take a vacation from yourself
- Create a mental vacation that updates your perspective, reloads your enthusiasm and rebuilds your potential for joy
- you can accomplish this mental getaway by varying some of your habits, especially your thought patterns for a week or so

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Day 8

From 40 days to a Joy-filled life by Tommy Newberry

- Understanding how your self-concept influences your attitude toward life can help you both live with and spread more joy.

- Your self-concept is the picture that you hold of yourself at the unconscious level

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Day 7

From 40 days to a Joy-filled life by Tommy Newberry

- We become what we behold
- Whatever you dwell upon becomes increasingly conspicuous in your own mind
- Resist the urge to accelerate negative emotional spirals by chronically reporting your own negative headlines
- whatever holds our attention molds our intention

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Day 6

From 40 days of Joy-filled life by Tommy Newberry

- your written goals are your headlines for the future. Make them captivating, and you'll rise above and beyond your previous best ... And breathe in much more joy along the way.
-Goal setting is an essential tool for disciplining your mind to focus on what is lovely , excellent , and worthy of praise

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Day 5

Fron 40 days to a Joy-filled life by Tommy Newberry

-As a proactive thinker, you decide that no matter what is going around you, you are not going to allow it to change what is going on inside you
- often, though we give people in our lives consent to make us angry

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Day 4

From 40 days to a Joy-filled life by Tommy Newberry

A joy filled life is the result of joyous decades, joyous years, joyous months, joyous weeks and joyous days. But you can live a joy-filled life only one day at a time.

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Day 3

From 40 days to a Joy-filled life by Tommy Newberry


You will always have something to complain about and you will always have some blessings to count.

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Day 2

Dec 27 2018- Day 2
From 40 days to a joy-filled life by Tommy Newberry:

- Gratitude is a choice. It is a conscious and deliberate decision to focus on lifes's blessings rather than its shortcomings.
- when you focus on your blessings, your life feels abundant. When you focus on what's missing, life feels incomplete.

40 days to a Joy filled life

So now I will restart to read this book by Tommy Newberry, "40 days to a Joy-filled life". I bought this book probably over a year ago, starting readong but did not finish it. I can't remember in what day I stopped. It s a self help book duh hehe, with the idea that you should just read one chapter at a t9me for 40 days. Accorsing to the author, the book is written to help the reader put the 4:8 principle into practice in your everyday life... for the rest of your life.
The 4:8 principle, still according to the author is based on Philippians 4:8 that states that whatever you give your attention to expamds in your experience. If you dwell on your strengths, your blessings, your goals and all the people who love you, then you will attract even more blessings even more love and even more accomplishments. Hmm.. seems a lot like "The Secret".

So now as I try to navigate this 40 days journey, I will try to post everyday, my key take aways for each chapter.
So for Day 1 (Dec 26 2018)
- Joy does not depend on outer conditions of your material life but rather on the inner

condition of your mental life.
-Joy is the result of something strikingly simple, thought not necessarily easy, consistently thinking of joy producing thoughts
-Think about what you want and not what you don't want
-Release the need to hang on thoughts that haven't worked well for you

That's it! Let's see again tomorrow.

A year has passed

Whew! So it has been more than a year already from my last original post. So many things have happened in the last year that everything seems a blur now lol.

Some important things I have learned in the past year:

- pathological liars can be anyone and is not necessarily a criminal. She can be a colleague who is uber friendly to everyone and can change face faster than a chameleon. And they don't care if you caught them lying right on their face. They could be the best poker players in the world.

- some people love attention more than respect

- in this day and age there are still women who act independent but are actually still damsels in distress waiting for their knight in shining armor

- people can be so apathetic that even if it affects their subordinates or colleagues but if its does not affect them in any way, they would not care

- some people seem to have everything (on the outside) but can still be depressed and do suicide

Uncaring

In 2011, a two-year-old girl was run down by a truck in the Chinese city of Foshan. The girl, Yue Yue, lay in the road for seven minutes, and was run over again, while people walked and cycled past her until finally a woman moved her to the side of the road. She later died of her injuries in hospital. The ensuing global outrage focused on changes in China's social patterns. The possibility of being liable for the girl's medical bills might have been a contributing factor in people's reluctance to help. Guangdong province discussed introducing a law to make it illegal to ignore someone in distress. But it's not about being Chinese. In 2009,twenty people witnessed the rape and murder of a fifteen-year-old girl in Richmond, California. No one called for help, or intervened. Some people even filmed it on their phones. Some bystanders later said that they thought this was a joke, people messing about. But no one checked; no one asked if she needed help. - From The 15-minute psychologist by Anne Rooney

The right thing

Roy Bleake: What was it you told me? People think it's hard to do the right thing.

Harry Fertig: It's not hard to do the right thing.

Roy Bleake: It's hard to know what the right thing is - but once you know...

Harry Fertig: Once you know... Once you know what is right, then it's hard not to do it.

Harry Fertig: Once you know... once you know what is right, then it's hard not to do it.

- from the movie The Confession

Show friend

Have you ever been with someone who always asks you to join them for dinner, snacks, buy something from the corner store but then when you are with them what they would do is constantly text on their phone or worse scroll through their social media accounts?

What is with this kind of person? Are they just afraid to be seen alone that they need the company just for show? 

Rating

I am an uber rider and since I have another phone I decided to create a new account and after my 5th trip today, just saw my average rating. Which is 3.4 out of a possible 5. Now I got down on why drivers gave me such a low rating. I don't remember being rude, maybe because I used promo codes and that at one point my fare was less than 100 pesos? I hope they can also show how you were rated after each ride so that at least you can get a hint why the driver gave you such a low rating.

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